With spring right around the corner, I am thinking about entertaining friends on our deck. I am remembering the last deck gathering I hosted and am celebrating how much I’ve grown.
If you are overwhelmed by your current situation, I want to give you encouragement. Sometimes, letting it all go is the only way to go (grow)! Blessings. . .
At the end of August, 2011, I had a group of women over for breakfast on the tiny house deck. We had just moved in a few months earlier, and I was passionate about giving my in-depth tiny house tour. As I was lifting one side of the couch to say “This is where we keep our dirty clothes.” I remembered our 1500 sq. ft. house where I spent at least a whole day cleaning before company arrived. It never felt like I wanted it to–and the laundry was certainly never part of my tour. I’ve never been much for house cleaning. I have always thought ” Why make your bed if you’re just gonna get back in it.” Luck would have it, I married the most hard-working, clean and neat guy around. We had many arguments over the cleanliness of our home. Our big house overwhelmed me–dusting, mopping and vacuuming all came AFTER putting away the stuff. And we loved stuff. We had decorative candles, ornaments, platters, memorabilia. I had shelves lining our bedroom just to hold sentimental collections of dust. Once we opened our restaurant, I gave up totally. When company came, I blamed the restaurant, but felt stress knowing my home was not a cozy space for entertaining. I was embarrassed, yet resigned to the mess, because I was taxed to the max–nothing left in me to give to creating a cozy, neat and clean home. My home was out of control and running me.
A series of unfortunate (now fortunate) events, including losing our restaurant (2008) and losing our big house (2009) have led us to this new and improved life. I will, with time, share more about how we made this transition.
What felt so great as I gave tours of the tiny house last August was knowing how much I’ve grown. My husband and I no longer argue about the order of our home–it’s rarely out-of-order. We got rid of most of the clutter through a series of yard sales and donations. What we kept for our future small house is boxed up and in storage. Living with only the things we use on a regular basis has freed us from the task of putting away clutter. Part of what makes it fun to give tiny house tours is saying “This is where we keep our plates, this is Brother’s clothing cabinet, this is where we keep our shoes,” and opening up the doors to expose the insides. There’s nothing to hide! We have put a lot of thought into how we live, what we use daily, and how to make this small space livable for our family. This intentional lifestyle has grounded me and freed me from the stress of too much stuff. I feel satisfied knowing my home is in order.
Thank you, unfortunate (now fortunate) events, for leading us to our new and improved lives.